Have you ever gotta serious crush on someone whom you couldn’t have? We hope all of you are pretty much acquainted with the scenario. We always want someone who is probably unavailable, not interested in us, or not that much into us. But still we crave for that person, even after getting so many rejections. Though it rarely happens in other arenas of our life. We prefer to adjust whenever we find something unapproachable. But what happens in love? Why unattainable always fascinates us?
There is a logical reason behind each and everything, so here goes..
The recent study by Helen E Fisher and team, American Psychological society, shows that people who were rejected by their partner were intensely in love with them. The study was done to elucidate the work of neural system with the help of functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) upon 15 women and men who were rejected by someone.
It was perceived that participants’ brains, specifically the mid-brain area of the VTA and the striatum, showed activation in the arenas related to stimulation, reward, addiction, distress, craving, whenever they were shown the photographs of the person who rejected them. It was concluded that “this partly because adversity tends to heighten feelings of romantic love and because when a reward is delayed in coming, reward-expecting neurons in the reward system prolong their activity”. The study also demonstrates the involvement of the angular gyrus in this process. Hence after concluding the whole idea, it is speculated that the intense romantic love is preserved in the mid-brain area of the VTA and angular gyrus, despite the rejection, separation and emotional negativity.
The reason of ‘addiction’ to the rejecting partner
It is anticipated that rejected men and women’s cortical and subcortical areas, specifically the nucleus accumbens and orbitofrontal/prefrontal cortex, which is associated with craving and addiction manifest neural activity, whenever the participants they see the photos of their partners. This also happens with other various kinds of addictions where a significant increase of dopamine in the stratium is seen. Even the angular gyrus, a region of the brain, related with romantic love is also associated with cigarette craving.
Hence it is evidently proved that romantic rejection is a kind of addiction same as other addictions. The study reports “The perspective that rejection in love involves subcortical reward gain/loss systems critical to survival helps to explain why feelings and behaviours related to romantic rejection are difficult to control and lends insight into the high cross-cultural rates of stalking, homicide, suicide, and clinical depression associated with rejection in love.”
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